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The hottest tea, the spiciest gossip, the fiercest commentary and no fucking censorship. We are the Los Santos VIXEN. Hope you've been doing your kegels, babe. Letter from the editor: Sis, stop reading the story and BE the story. Submit your gossip to our handy and under-fucking-utilized gossip submission form. Chop chop. Also Like, Subscribe, Share, is this your first time online? Click HERE ! LSVIXEN XOXO ❤️ A Vixen's Guide: To Forgiveness and Letting Go (Imagine a world with less grudges, pettiness.... how nice would that be?) Hiya, sunshines. Woosh, I don't know about you but I'm still recovering from a festive New Years. I managed to finally emerge from the dancing confetti-fest at about seven PM yesterday and - yeesh... does it have my head in a tumble of emotions, excitement, and optimism. You see, dear readers, there's something I try to do each and every New Year that helps me keep my head clear and my heart open. I'm not saying I'm super perfect at it, but I can say that making it part of my monthly self-care practice and yearly New Years celebration has made me a more patient and kind person. Holding onto anger, regret, guilt, or a grudge can eat away at you. Even when you try to crush it down and pretend it's not there, it is there and it's burning a hole through your mind and stomach. It can make you snappier and rude to the people around you who don't deserve the heat. It can warp your perspective of reality, making true and lasting friends into threats who may reveal your inner rage at any moment, it can warp a true sense of hope into a dreary sense of despair. There's really only one solution. And it's forgiveness. But it doesn't happen at the snap of a finger. Sometimes we can say the words in our head but feel no change- that's entirely normal. True forgiveness takes time and examination. So I thought I'd provide you a Vixen's Guide into how I generally approach the beautiful and liberating practice of forgiveness and letting go. Sometimes, The Call is Coming from Inside the House 😲 Take a deep breath. In and out. Good. Okay, so sometimes when human beings have regrets and guilt towards their own history of slip-ups or perceived inadequacies, we can sometimes apply it to others in a process called Transference. This is just a fancy word for putting those feelings onto external targets because it's easier sometimes to detest and reject other people rather than to look inwards and risk detesting and rejecting ourselves. But, sunshine, there's a trick to this. I think if we look inside at the parts of ourselves we need to forgive ourselves for, we can lower the emotional weight we put onto dynamics with others! As I said, I know forgiveness isn't a matter of snapping your fingers and being suddenly okay. It is a process. When looking inside to forgive yourselves, I want you to carefully and clearly think. 'How much control did I have?' 'What was my mental state at the time?' 'Was I under any external distress?' and more importantly, 'What could I have done better?' After you've answered all of those questions in a loving way, the way a nurturing force might, you will be left with a clearer picture of the things you tend to blame yourself for and even a potential different way of handling future situations like it. Remember, we cannot edit the past, we can only change the way we approach things now and in the future. Forgiving Those Who Are Gone. 👻 So we've looked inside, saw some things we might want to forgive ourselves for, and even maybe examined areas where we were wronged by others in the process. But what if those people are no longer around? What if they've moved, died, or are just someone we are no longer able to contact for one reason or another? Will we forever be unable to provide them forgiveness and release ourselves from that particular shade of pain and anger? In my opinion, no. I think we can still try to forgive those who have left our lives. And here's the really somewhat fucked up part. I think we should even release ourselves from the fury against people who absolutely deserve your anger. At a certain point, when we realize that balled up anger and sorrow only hurts us more, it becomes clear that holding onto rage further connects you to people who have hurt you. Love and hate are two sides of the same coin and they connect and link you to the targets of that passion. If you've got a few folks in mind who occupy this tricky space in your heart and mind, I recommend wholeheartedly that you write them a letter. Make it personal. Speak from your heart. And pour everything into it, because they won't be seeing it directly. Once you've written about the dynamic, the hurt you've held, and the anger and sorrow in equal measure, end the letter by declaring you release yourself from the animosity. Now comes the big trick. You are going to burn that letter. You'll find a safe place and you'll set a (legally sanctioned) fire, you'll take some deep breaths and read over the letter a final time before setting it into the fire and letting it burn away. While we cannot snap our fingers and forgive ourselves or others in an instant, we can make the process physical. As the days go by and you forget the exact wording of the letter, it provides you a measurable distance from you and the grief and allows you to see how much you've grown from it since. B-but Vixen, what if I can talk to the person I want to forgive? 💋 If the person or people you want to forgive are still in your life and you have a level of communication that is non-toxic and relatively clear, it's important to approach the topic in the right place and at the right time. I still recommend approaching after examining yourself for areas in need of self-forgiveness, but once you've cleared that it's time to communicate effectively with the person in question. For more general communication skills, see A Vixen's Guide: To Communicating Clearly Without Fucking Up But for particularly this Vixen's Guide, I'm going to go down a specific approach. First off, you're going to want to articulate to the person that emotions are non-voluntary and that the emotions you're feeling may not be necessarily super rational or logical, but that you still are feeling them and that out of respect for the friendship, you'd rather put it out there rather than keep it bottled up. You'd be very surprised how receptive most people are to this kind of clear communication and it relieves them of a lot of pressure of having to defend themselves. Once that's out of the way, discussing the thing that hurt you is next on the agenda. It's always wise to position it as: "When you did/said _____, I felt _____." If you think the event that caused you pain was unintentional, you can mention that logically you understand the person isn't to blame, but your involuntary emotions have a different take on it. ideally if the person is a solid friend or a kind soul, they will apologize for causing you pain whether it was voluntary or non-voluntary. If this person is unable to apologize for one reason or another, or if you don't feel like you were heard or seen in the discussion, never fear. You can always go back to the second section of this blog post and go through the process outlined there. What if I just don't want to think about it anymore? 🥺 Entirely fair, babe. All I'm going to say is that usually the more we don't want to think about something and the more we push it off to the corners of our minds, the scarier it seems to look at, to address, and to feel. In reality, if we engage in regular self-examinations and rounds of forgiveness towards the self and others, it doesn't seem so scary to look at because of all the times we've looked at various pains and survived in the past. The best way to set the hurt behind you is to face it, name it, and go through a real process of forgiveness. Now you have a couple of solid tactics at your disposal and all that's left is to do it. lf you still end up having some lingering feelings that won't go away after all of this, there's zero shame in going to therapy. It's something I try to do once a month to keep myself happy, healthy, and clear-minded. It's the best gift I could provide myself. For 2024, consider providing yourself a better gift than a new car or a resolution to lose weight. Consider providing yourself peace of mind. It'll make your world a sunnier place.. Love you, cuties. ❤️ XOXO, DISCLAIMER >Comments are enabled!

The hottest tea, the spiciest gossip, the fiercest commentary and no fucking censorship. We are the Los Santos VIXEN. Hope you've been doing your kegels, babe. Letter from the editor: Sis, stop reading the story and BE the story. Submit your gossip to our handy and under-fucking-utilized gossip submission form. Chop chop. Also Like, Subscribe, Share, is this your first time online? Click HERE ! LSVIXEN XOXO ❤️ A Vixen's Guide: To Communicating Clearly Without Fucking Up (Totally real people with real communication skills /s) Hiya cuties! So I've been flourishing in a golden age for the Vixen and I thought long and hard about what brought me to where I am today. Clear. Direct. Empathetic. Communication. It's more than just saying shit when you think about it. Human nature is a delicate balance of give and take and there are intricacies to our language, our posture, and the timing we use when approaching moments of true and honest communication. I'm not going to pretend this is a golden guide to all your communication issues, that'd be like... a whole ass book. But, I do think if you poke around the few points I mention below, you might be able to at least be a little more mindful of how you approach talking to friends, bosses, dates, and even strangers! Let's dig in! Who the HELL do you think you're talking to? 😲 Woah there, subtitle, you're coming in a little hot there. But you make a good point. Who are you trying to communicate with? Knowing who you're talking to and why is the first step, babes. A cardinal rule of thumb for me is that not every conversational topic is for every person. I had a friend named Tina back on the East Coast and given her spate of four divorces she wasn't great at being supportive of me when I tried to date these twin Albino underwear models. From the start, the topic was colored by her own life experiences and perception of love as necessarily leading to heart-ache and grief. Know your audience. Tina was one of the best people to talk to about work stuff and even trouble with my family. She was a phenomenal friend and just because I wasn't interested in talking about boys with her, doesn't mean I didn't cherish our friendship. Scan your friend groups for a second and notice if certain topics bring up the most trouble in those relationships and decide whether that topic ever really has to come up with them or not. What are their strengths and how meaningful is their support in those areas of your life? Finally, there is no one-stop shop. As much as we want to believe there is one person in the entire world we can confide our everything into, human beings deal with their own stuff and if you put all your eggs in one bastard- well. It can burn them out, babe! This is just to say having a diverse and varied group of lovely humans that you truly adore can lead to a mutual support network that is strong and lasting. And I want to emphasize here, there is zero shame in hiring a shrink and putting some of the pressure onto them, it's literally their job and it gives you the vocabulary and perspective to know who to talk to about what for the best quality communication! Defense Mechanism LIMBO!!! 💃 Shake. Shake. Shake. Senora. Shake your body right under the defense mechanisms for the best results. Difficult topics happen, we're not always going to be able to avoid them and avoiding them usually only makes them worse if you want to keep that lovey-dovey human in your sphere. In this household, we appreciate productive confrontation. It's non-aggressive, empathetic, assertive. and most of all solutions oriented. Yes, it can be all of those things at once. When you're talking with people, you've got to understand that different things can put up emotional and mental walls that make people stop listening and start rabidly defending themselves. This can be as subtle as a raised voice creating a sense of anxiety in the other person, an environment that isn't suitable for conversation due to noise or chaos (Lol. I know. Los Santos. But I mean an immediate environment.), and most importantly the words we choose and the timing we use in saying them. Everyone you know has defense mechanisms and coping mechanisms. It's how we survive in Trauma City without completely breaking down. If you're still reading this, I want you to think about the last few times you spoke with your closest friends. Did you vibe any sort of topics that get them anxious or tense? Did they clam up about particular points of discussion when approached about them? Those are prime defense mechanism territory and the best way to slip under them to address the underlying topics they 'protect' is to approach calmly, in a safe place, checking in with them before talking about it to see if there in a good mental place to do so, and to probably have a hot tea or a stiff drink with them. B-but Vixen, how can I go from being a Stumbling-Lad... to being a Smooth-Talking Chad?! 💋 Practice, babe! What you want to do when talking to people you care about is to establish common ground. If I were to bring up a conflict with my boyfriend, there's a solid way I tend to approach it. First off, before this imaginary conflict, I establish at the beginning of any true relationship, friendship, or even work relationship, that I love honesty and communication. I make sure they know they can come to me with any issues that might crop up from the often messy human dynamics that go into being friends with the LS Vixen. By setting that up ahead of time, it makes them more likely to welcome me when I bring up issues, especially given the fact that I re-establish common ground before every tough discussion. Trouble with a lover? If you tell them that you love them deeply, that you know they love you deeply, and that you're both in this for the same goals, it can eliminate the "US VERSUS THEM" mentality that happens when people feel threatened or attacked. Boss calls you in for a review? Reiterate your commitment, own up to mistakes, be humble but own your victories, and you can both leave the meeting feeling like you're on the same team and on the same page. If you find the common ground isn't so common any more and that the person just sees you as a hostile outsider, well there unfortunately isn't much you can do through communication. One of the big lessons is that we can only change the way we express our feelings, we cannot change the feelings and emotions of others ourselves. We can offer opportunities, support, and space, but the minds, opinions, feelings, and dreams of others are in their wheelhouse. Knowing your lane and knowing what is beyond your control can allow you to forgive yourself for things you've inadvertently blamed on yourself and grief that clings even years later. Woah. You went deep there, Vix. 🥺 Fuck off. I can do what I want, me-from-two-seconds-ago. Seriously though, the journey towards clear communication with the people you love can amp up your sex life, your work life, and generally speaking make you someone people want to talk to. I can say from personal experience that I love those in my life who make me feel like I can truly talk to them and be seen and heard. If more people in Los Santos committed themselves to clear communication, it's not silly to imagine we might have a little less division, hatred, anger, and violence. It wouldn't be perfect, but it'd give us a chance to see each other as allies rather than enemies. God, that was fuckin' sappy. I'm gonna go get laid. VIX OUT! XOXO, DISCLAIMER >Comments are enabled!

As a counter to the rigid tradition permeating through the illegal world, The Windfall Connection’s hope is to set aside differences and focus on the one thing that is diluted by held prejudices: making money. Men and women of all races and backgrounds are accepted here, as long as they embody the lifestyle. Due to the founders being based out of New Chinatown, Mission Row, the Connection takes on Chinese paraphernalia. It is not a gang, nor is it wholly or majorly criminal. There is a balance between the legal and illegal, creating a mutual partnership. Business owners work hand-in-hand with those more steeped in the illegal world, letting them run themselves as siloed, autonomous groups. The business owners cover illegal expenses and fund criminal projects for these groups, and in turn, these groups dedicate their ruthless individuals to protecting the business sites that they are allowed to base their operations out of. Windfall Wealth (偏财) is an unexpected form of income. It’s a fitting way to describe those who take advantage of the system. This, along with the connected nature of the legal and illegal campaigns, is how the Connection finds its name. Chinese artists have long used five bats to represent the five blessings: health, long life, prosperity, love of virtue, and a tranquil, natural death. The bats often are bright red—the color of joy—but the Windfall does not find solace in embodying happiness. Our mark is instead a jet black. The Chinese word for black is "hei," which stands for bad luck, irregularity, and illegality. We take on the very last interpretation of the word, reminding ourselves of how we're viewed by the world at large. The five bats encircle a stylized caligraph known as the prosperity symbol. Among the Five Gods of Wealth within Chinese mythology, Zhong Kui stands as the Windfall God of Wealth, and as such, he is idolized by The Windfall Connection. He is a vanquisher of ghosts and a fighter of demons, but to fight is not always to kill. The practice of The Windfall Connection is to unify groups that would otherwise be without structure and without home, and so we look to the painting of Zhong Kui where the demon bows to him, for he realizes his life and his prosperity is greater when working alongside Zhong Kui. Zhong Kui is oft affiliated with the Five Bats of Prosperity, and this too is why the mark of The Windfall Connection was chosen. While steeped in Chinese mythology and ancestral knowledge, The Windfall Connection is modernized and corporate-esque in architecture and hierarchy. Leaders of the autonomous groups sit beside the heads of business, not beneath them, creating an unnamed council of proven men and women that seek to maintain their lifestyles and build the community that cultivated their own ascension. Discourse and cooperation are the glue, and anyone who chooses to neglect these basic principles will be replaced by the greater whole. Fly with us, or be cut down and replaced by another with larger, healthier wings. Founded on Chinese teachings within New Chinatown, Mission Row in Los Santos, San Andreas, The Windfall Connection will always prioritize those in need within the the community. To join us and to embody our ideology is to set upon the goal of uplifting one's self to a new lifestyle, but that does not mean only those born of Chinese blood, or Asian blood, are accepted. Diligence, intellect, skill, and amiability will take you far. NOTE: These ranks will not be used, or referenced, IC. They are simply meant to represent OOC development and how the characters in game organize their work and advancement up to the council. Intrigued 好奇 — Curious about The Windfall Connection, but have yet to be involved or have yet to involve themselves in the lifestyle. They've had discussions about unsavory work but have yet to run with something to completion. Vetted 审查 — Have expanded upon their curiosity and have been given minor tasks or busy work by a Connected, Winged, or Champion. They are still in the process of being tested, to see how they carry themselves and how successful they can be when provided minimal information or direction. Associated 联系 — Have stood out among their Vetted peers by proving their ability to take initiative and carry out their minor tasks without any setbacks tied to their own shortcomings. They are not yet Connected, but are privileged with a higher level of trust, and thus are given more meaningful, lucrative, and dangerous work. Connected 连接的 — Having proven themselves and carried out Associate level work to the satisfaction of those on the council, they have been uplifted and now officially belong to the Connection. They answer directly to a Winged or Champion; work is delegated down through them to the Associated and Vetted. They are the utmost trusted of the Windfall outside the council and are given work that requires a delicate hand, a thoughtful mind, and a keen eye. Winged 有翼的 — Finding your wings is no easy endeavor, for it is a test of skill, loyalty, resolve, and leadership. They have proven time and time again that not only can they drive their own success in the illegal realm, but the success of others beneath them, securing themselves a seat on the council. They often lead their own criminal groups, or are the next in line to lead a group once numbers permit. To be named a Winged is no mistake, but once someone grows their wings, they are expected to keep them in flight. Should they falter and refuse to let another find their wings, others among the council will make that decision for them. Champion 状元 — Bearing the original Zhuangyuan title of Zhong Kui, Champions are beacons of capital and governors of legal affairs among the Windfall, having earned their place on the council. They are self-sufficient, funding the projects and schemes of the Winged, and in turn, are provided protection and able hands from the Winged and their subordinates. This isn't to say that they never dabble in the illegal side of the coin, but their movements are cautious and obscured. Should a Champion's wealth wane, it is a show of their ineptitude and inability to contribute to the Windfall and the community as a whole. In this scenario, if they do not willingly step down, the council is entrusted to make that decision for them. Illegal activity we are attempting to portray and cultivate are crimes typically expected of, but not limited to, Asian Organized Crime. These include the production and sales of narcotics, car theft, automobile exportation, chop shop operations, crimes involving electronics, money laundering, illegal gambling, lottery scams, skimming, and possibly prostitution. The Windfall Connection does commit violent crimes such as robbery and murder, but on a much more seldom basis as to keep the organization's true nature under wraps. Since we are attempting to portray a secret society in West Coast America in the 2020s, a lot of violent crime will be well thought out and properly weighted for its worth. Asian Organized Crime Groups focus on generating money undisturbed. Violent crime, especially in a city like Los Santos, will garner unwarranted attention, even more so with the various other Asian groups in the city. Law Enforcement has proven they'll use a broad stroke to crackdown on all Asian criminals in Los Santos and the disruption of other groups' cash flow is something the Connection wants to avoid at all costs. The Windfall Connection is meant to be a story heavy group that focuses on characterization, human behavior, and emotional development. Your writing in game should reflect your character as a human being, first and foremost, who happens to be a criminal or head of business. The opposite circumstance should not be practiced — a criminal or business owner whose characterization comes second. If your primary focus is shooting or robotically working deals while barely interacting with the group IC, this is not the group for you. There should always be a balance and our roleplayers should try their best to give their character realistic depth. Those who belong to this group should try their very best to separate OOC and IC interactions. Narrative drives all, and as a show of good faith, I am personally embodying this ideal by making it clear up front that OOC management of the group is a responsibility kept completely separate from IC dealings. If my own character falls from grace through roleplay, I will not allow OOC privileges to provide me an unfair advantage. I will still help with upkeep for the group, or hand off the responsibilities to someone I know will handle them properly. I value story above all else and when it is skewed by OOC scenarios, the enjoyment of the entire experience is diluted. I want to try and avoid that at all costs, and I hope everyone who is interested in this group joins me in trying to uphold that ideal. If this group ever becomes an official faction, CK rights will not be carried out like other factions. Winged 有翼的 will have full autonomy to acquire CK rights for those that belong to their particular group / cell. However, no CK rights will be held across groups and no Champion 状元 or Winged 有翼的 will hold CK rights over another. This enforces the council mentality and breeds trust and respect among our members from the very start. Lastly, we personally do not tolerate any kind of disrespect, bullying, or toxicity to any of our members. We want this to be a friendly, open-minded community that focuses on writing and having fun. We do not care where you stand IC; if your OOC behavior is appalling, you will be removed from this community and the council will decide on a way to move the narrative forward without you in the most realistic and seamless way possible.